You’re in a relationship. You’re happy, he’s happy, and you know you two are meant to be together forever. But there’s one problem: He’s not spending as much time with you as he used to. And when you talk about it, he gets defensive and tells you that it’s not what it looks like, that he still thinks of himself as your boyfriend and that nothing has changed between you. So why does he spend so much time away from your side?
He thinks you’re better than him.
This is the most common reason why he’s dating other people. He thinks you’re better than him and is not confident enough to be with you.
It could also be that he doesn’t think he can keep up with you, or even better yet, he doesn’t believe in himself enough to be with someone like you.
He may feel like you deserve someone more mature and experienced than him because they’ve been through more than him.
He doesn’t think he’s good enough for you.
If your guy is dating other women, he may think you’re too good for him. He doesn’t feel like he can keep up with you or be on the same level as someone who has more experience and success than him. This could also mean that he feels inferior to your other relationships, in which case it’s time to have an honest conversation about where his self-esteem comes from (and how much time he spends on social accounts ).
If there’s a chance that this is the case, explain what makes him unique and why these other women are not good enough for him in a non-sexist way! Letting him know what makes you happy will help build his confidence and encourage him to stick around instead of looking elsewhere for validation or someone who will make the first move.
He’s in a relationship.
If your guy is in a relationship with someone else, it’s likely because he has deeper issues that need to be addressed. Maybe he doesn’t want to settle down yet, maybe his ex still haunts him, or maybe he hasn’t gotten over the fact that you two are friends first. Please don’t waste time convincing him otherwise until he’s ready for something serious.
If you’ve gone through all these reasons and can’t figure out why he’s dating other people while liking you, then there might be one last thing holding him back: himself! This final point is probably the most important one because if there’s something wrong with how your guy views relationships or what they mean in general (i.e., having fun vs. being severe), then no matter how hard you try to convince him otherwise (or vice versa), nothing will change unless both of you work on yourself together!
He’s not ready for a commitment yet.
It may seem like he’s been dating you for a while, but sometimes people haven’t decided whether they want to be in a serious relationship. That’s why they’re still dating other people. They’re trying to see if they connect with anyone like that. It could be that he doesn’t feel the same about you as you do about him, or he isn’t ready to commit to one person yet. Either way, he needs to get clear on what he wants before making big decisions about his life!
He’s afraid of commitment.
Commitment is scary. So many people are afraid to take that leap. It means you have to be responsible for someone else, and it means you have to be there for someone else. It means sharing your life with someone else and letting someone in; no matter what you say or do, that’s not something everyone can handle. He may genuinely like you, but he doesn’t want the responsibility that comes along with dating.
A guy ready to commit will want more than a casual relationship (or even an exclusive one). If he says things like “we should see other people” or “we shouldn’t get too serious right now,” then his priorities aren’t where they need to be if he truly wants something serious with you.
He likes spending time with you but doesn’t want to be exclusive.
You like him, but he doesn’t want to be exclusive.
You feel like you might want to be in a relationship, but he’s not ready for that commitment yet. He may have been burned in the past and is afraid of getting hurt again, or perhaps he’s not ready for it right now. Either way, while you may increasingly feel more attracted to your crush as time passes and their relationship continues (and vice versa), they’re unlikely to return your feelings anytime soon.
The best way to handle this situation is either by waiting patiently until they’re ready or by making an effort towards friendship instead (although being friends with someone who likes you can still be awkward).
You’re a distraction from his day-to-day life.
You’re a distraction from his day-to-day life. If he’s dating other women and you’ve seen each other for a while, it could be because he doesn’t think you’re good enough for him. He might be in an existing relationship or be afraid of commitment. It could also be that he hasn’t found the right woman yet and has decided to date multiple people until he does.
You’re just a fling to him.
If he’s not talking about taking the relationship to the next level, it’s just a fling. He likes you, but he doesn’t want anything serious with you. His may be having fun with you now and again, but if he doesn’t want something more than that, and let’s be honest, most guys do. He won’t think twice about going out with other people as well.
If you’re wondering why this is a problem, consider this: if he can go out with other women while dating you, then how can we possibly trust that he won’t cheat on us? And even if it doesn’t come to cheating (which is unlikely), where do we go from here once our relationship ends? If someone has been casually hooking up with multiple people at once and not being exclusive with any of them, chances are they’re probably not interested in exclusivity either!
He has no idea how much you like him.
It’s often the case that a guy you like doesn’t know you like him. He might be oblivious to the fact that he’s your type, or he could be shy and unsure of how to tell you. If this sounds like something you’ve experienced, here are some ways to make your intentions known:
- Be direct. Tell him exactly how much of a crush on him you have! Make it evident through body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice. You can do this by smiling at him as often as possible (but don’t be creepy), complimenting his outfit or hairstyle when he leaves the room (but don’t make it over-the-top), letting out subtle sighs when he makes eye contact with another girl nearby (but don’t break down sobbing).
- Talk about your feelings honestly with someone else first before telling him directly because that way, once he finds out from someone else first then, there won’t ever be any doubt in his mind as to whether or not they’re mutual–because everyone knows honesty is always best–and then after hearing all about them indirectly through another person whom they both trust implicitly [which would include me if I were present], THEN maybe THEN just maybe…
He just wanted to flirt with you, and that’s it.
If he’s not interested in committing, it’s time to move on.
There are plenty of reasons a guy might seem interested in you but doesn’t follow through. Maybe he wants to flirt and never take things further. If that’s the case, move on. You don’t want to waste your time pursuing someone who isn’t serious about dating you or anyone else, for that matter.
If he doesn’t seem interested in committing, it might be time to move on.
If you are interested in someone, but he doesn’t seem interested in you, it might be time to move on. Why waste your time if he is not interested in pursuing a relationship with you? He may not even realize that he’s not interested until the right girl comes along.
It can also be beneficial to keep an open mind when dating other people because sometimes they’ll make you realize that there may have been something wrong with the person you initially thought was right for you all along.
We can’t predict the future, but we can tell you that keeping your hopes up will probably not get you anywhere. If he’s been dating other people and still seems disinterested in committing, it may be time to move on. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule. But I’ve just listed above some common reasons why men might not want anything serious with women they date casually. So if none of these sound like, what would happen if he liked you back? Then maybe it’s time for us to accept that this wasn’t meant to be!